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7 reasons to seek Marriage Counseling in NYC

 Divorce rates have remained unchanged for the past 30 years, but it is a fact that 50% of first marriages go down that path. Divorces are difficult, not only for the adults, but for the children too bringing uncertainty about the future. For adults it can be one of life’s most stressful moments. Children often have negative feelings which include guilt, blame anger and a preoccupation with reconciliation.

Divorce often seems like the only option, and for some couples it may well be the best one, but Couples Counseling in NYC, may help encounter the issues and save their union.

Here are seven difficult situations where couples can seek Marriage Counseling for in NYC:

  1. Negative Communication

When communication deteriorates it is difficult for a couple to reverse the situation. Negative communication will leave one of the two partners in the marriage feeling depressed, insecure, ignored or wanting to withdraw from the conversation.

Conversations taking place in a hard tone can be stressful and besides feelings of hurt, can also lead to emotional or physical abuse and non verbal communication.

Couples should remember that it is not always what is said, but how it’s said.

  • Broken trust

Affairs or the thought of having one are difficult to recover from, though not impossible. The guilty partner has to be willing to cooperate and the other partner needs to be forgiving and willing to move forward.

If both are committed to the therapy at Couples Counseling in NYC, the marriage may be saved.

  • Finding what’s missing

Marriage means doing things together. If there are no shared interests, lack of conversation and intimacy, then a skilled counselor can help open up and discover where along the way the couple lost interest in each other, what is missing and how to recover it.

  • Resolving differences

 Many couples going through a rough patch know that they have differences but often do not know how to go about resolving them. A neutral third party, like a skilled marriage counselor can help them find and fix the differences, moving the couple in the right direction. 

  • Feelings of resentment

Disappointment and resentment can often lead to hurtful behavior. Often the spouse who has been wronged agrees to stay on and work things out, but can’t get past these feelings and continuously tries to hurt the other partner. A good couple’s counselor will help the couple sort out the negative feelings and find a less hurtful way for them to express their feelings.

  • Separation is the only way out

Separations often begin when one of the two walks out on a fight and stays away for one night, this often leads to a temporary separation, indicating the need for marriage counseling.

  • Staying together for the children

Counselors agree that this is the wrong reason for any couple to stay together. Children are intuitive and will feel that something is wrong and this is detrimental to them.

Couples and marriage counseling in NYC might not always resolve issues or salvage a marriage; but for those couples determined and committed to it they can sometimes rekindle what brought them together in the first place.

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COMMON TOPICS OF DISCUSSION:

  1.  Communication:  Finding ways to safely communicate with each other without being critical or judgmental..  We learn how to make the discussions safe.
  2. Rebuilding Trust:  Many couples come in to the office with current “trust issues”  The possibility of over-stepping boundaries with others develops.  We work on redeveloping those boundaries.
  3. Control Issues:  Some relationships can become suffocating if a partner believes they must be “in control” of the other partner or pieces of the relationship.  This control can stem out of the partners own fears or belief that the other can’t make adequate decisions.  We work on how to relinquish control, and re-unite as a team working toward a common goal.
  4. Effective parenting:  Sometimes children are involved in the relationship and for many reasons a battle ensues on “child rearing” and “correct” ways of doing things.  These conflicts can be very destructive.  Couples are taught how to lean on each others strengths, and again, work as a team.
  5. Conflict Resolution:  Probably one of the best predictors of whether or not a couple is going to stay together is how they resolve their conflicts.  Couples are taught flexibility, compromise, sacrifice, and  being open to opinion.  Sometimes all that we can do is “agree to disagree”
  6. Addictions:  Sometimes addictions come in to play in relationships.  Be it alcohol, drugs, pornography or others, what happens is one partners addiction becomes a priority in the relationship.  This can be catastrophic, and we work towards dealing with these addictions and finding better ways to cope with the stressors of life.
  7. Finanaces:  There was an old Billy Joel song that stated…”They started to fight when the money got tight but they just didn’t count on the tears”  Money and how it is spent has been a prevailing reasons why couples have separated.  We teach budgeting skills and financial priorities in a relationship.
  8. Relationship Priorities:  We discuss how important the relationship is, and the time needed for it to persevere in a stressful life.  Date nights, quiet time together, short getaways are discussed, with strategies on how to keep the relationship alive and well.
  9. The “Destructive Part” of Social Media.  If couples are not careful, today’s social media can become quite destructive.  Boundaries must be put in place to avoid these conflicts.
  10. And many…..many…..more.  These are just some of the issues that we touch upon (if need be) and there are a host of others that we address that can be tailored to your specific needs.

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